Comments on: Are you really my friend? http://www.blog.julians.name/2007/09/10/are-you-really-my-friend/ What's in a name? Just your whole life. Mon, 31 May 2010 15:55:48 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Julian http://www.blog.julians.name/2007/09/10/are-you-really-my-friend/comment-page-1/#comment-1142 Julian Tue, 11 Sep 2007 16:05:45 +0000 http://www.blog.julians.name/2007/09/10/are-you-really-my-friend/#comment-1142 Listening to this again I think I failed to make some very important points here. That's the risk of on-the-fly content creation with no editing process! I think I'm still happy with my message a day later - it's just not as inclusive of ALL the facts as I'd like it to be. Said another way, I need to publish more iterations on this theme so I can capture the WHOLE point. So what does this piece fail to capture. A lot! Here's the main one. Online social networking *CAN* deepen relationships. What I was saying is that social networking doesn't change you as a person. It gives you *new* tools to network with just as the phone did back with Alexander Graham Bell unleashed it on the world. It's what you do with it that counts. If I follow my old friending patters with these new tools I won't substantially change my network of friends or deepen my relationships with them. But I could if I change my behavior. This isn't unique to online social networking. Staying with the phone theme a moment the tool of a phone is only a good friending tool if you regularly reach out to people with it and answer calls when they come in. Listening to this again I think I failed to make some very important points here. That’s the risk of on-the-fly content creation with no editing process! I think I’m still happy with my message a day later – it’s just not as inclusive of ALL the facts as I’d like it to be. Said another way, I need to publish more iterations on this theme so I can capture the WHOLE point.

So what does this piece fail to capture. A lot!

Here’s the main one. Online social networking *CAN* deepen relationships. What I was saying is that social networking doesn’t change you as a person. It gives you *new* tools to network with just as the phone did back with Alexander Graham Bell unleashed it on the world. It’s what you do with it that counts. If I follow my old friending patters with these new tools I won’t substantially change my network of friends or deepen my relationships with them. But I could if I change my behavior. This isn’t unique to online social networking. Staying with the phone theme a moment the tool of a phone is only a good friending tool if you regularly reach out to people with it and answer calls when they come in.

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