Self Talk

Julian Gude circa 1980, Fremantle Western Australia

As I walked the other day I was reminded about some books I read some time ago about negative self talk. My own internal dialogue is best described as polar opposites of good and bad. As I’ve grown older I have found more fault in my own actions (and therefore my self talk) but also more compassion for my weaknesses.

Today, what I refer to internally as ‘the real me’ is this sunny blond headed kid with a big infectious smile who is connected wholly to his heart. Every day I live I try to remember him and that me is the one who makes me a better father, husband and friend. From this boy came this simple common sense reminder on a walk the other day and I thought it might be good to share with you.

Negative self talk

“Instead of listening to your own bad advice in the form of negative self talk instead think of giving a good friend advice if they had the same problem. You wouldn’t think of talking to a friend like you talk to yourself.

The next time you give yourself some advice think of it as a gift you would give your loved one or friend.

Try it in business, try it with your relationship and parenting advice, try it on the golf course.  – Julian “